On the bright side, they are 3 good embryos. Dr. N wanted us to try for a day 5 transfer because they were growing so well. We have never done that. We have never seen if any of them make it to blastocyst. Logically and scientifically, I know he is right. We should see if the problem is the embryo not growing or if it's an implantation issue. Emotionally, I can't take the risk of having nothing to transfer. I can't go through an entire IVF cycle and pay all that money only to have zero chance of becoming pregnant. With only 3 embryos it just felt like too high of a risk. I can't afford to lose any in the lab. So we opted to do a Day 3 transfer yesterday. And we transferred all of them to give them all a fighting chance. We had two 3-day embryos (8-cell and 6-cell) and one 2-day embryo (4-cell) because of the late fertilization. So now I am PUPO with triplets.
The transfer itself was the best I have had so far. I was already relaxed because of the valium and acupuncture, but SH was amazing and made me pretty much forget what it was we were doing there. I was talking to him about how I couldn't turn off my brain. How I just can't focus even on the meditation program I have been listening to. So he started talking about our wedding. We got married in Mexico with just our immediate family with us. It was a really fun week in a house we rented on the beach. Our wedding was at sunset on the beach.
He said to think of the sand under my feet whenever I need to slow down my brain. So we just started reminiscing about all the things we did during that week and at that moment nothing else was happening in the world. I was truly relaxed when Dr. N finally came in. The transfer itself was quick and for once my bladder wasn't overly full to the point I thought I would pee right there on the table. While I was laying there with my legs up after the transfer, SH started talking about other trips we had taken. We just talked and laughed the whole time. I didn't worry for one second while we were at the clinic. SH was worried about me laughing, though. I think he was worried about me laughing the embryos right out. But then I told him it's actually a good thing. There was actually a study saying laughing after an IVF transfer can improve chances of pregnancy.
So now I am home on day 2 of 3 days of bed rest. I was instructed to lay flat on my back in bed on the day of transfer (only getting up to use the bathroom) and the following 2 days are more modified "couch" rest. I can sit up but should remain reclining as much as possible. The problem with this is it kills my back! I slept terribly last night because my back hurt so much and I can't take any advil to help it. I am not sure how necessary this all is, but SH is making me take it seriously. He won't let me get up for anything. Luckily, he's a really great caretaker and gets me anything I need.
Here are some of my other 2 Week Wait rules:
- No baths or submerging in any kind of water. Showers only.
- Avoid using stomach muscles (um, easier said than done)
- No sex or orgasm
- No exercise
- Don't lift anything over 5 pounds (also easier said than done)
- Don't stand for prolonged periods of time
So now I wait. Beta is on February 25. That feels like an eternity, but I'm sure it will be here before I know it.