Wednesday, May 1, 2013

13 weeks

*Fair warning: I put a belly shot at the end of this post. I wasn't planning on doing it, but frankly I am a little surprised at how big the belly is already*


I hit 13 weeks over the weekend. I guess that means I am in the 2nd trimester? I am going with yes even though one iphone app tells me it's the last week of the first trimester and the other tells me it's the beginning of the 2nd. I am not sure why there is such confusion around this. It's amazing to hit this milestone. I kept waiting for something to go wrong during those first weeks. I think I am finally relaxing and realizing that this this is actually happening.

BABIES: Both are growing, though one is a few days ahead and one is a few days behind so they are about a week apart from each other. My OB says it's not a huge difference and as long as they both continue to grow at the rates they are, it shouldn't be a problem. We also got the results of the Maternit21 test. No chromosomal abnormalities! yeah! Also, no Y chromosome. It looks like we are having 2 girls. A part of me doesn't really want to get too attached to that idea and I have been reluctant to tell people. I feel like I need an ultrasound confirmation before I fully embrace that.

SYMPTOMS: The nausea is gradually going away. I still have it everyday, but it isn't constant anymore. I actually wake up feeling pretty good and start to go downhill after lunch. By dinner, I am feeling awful again. But, I have been able to eat a wider variety of foods. I have had some steak and salad this week. My first meat and vegetables in about 8 weeks. They tasted good, but somehow my brain still thinks it should be avoiding them. I think I have to teach my brain to crave my favorite foods again! I am really exhausted, but not sleeping well. It's not discomfort, I haven't hit that point yet. I just wake up a lot during the night and can't always go back to sleep. I am, also, always awake before my alarm goes off. I also seem to have a mild headache pretty constantly. I think that may actually be a side effect of the anti-nausea meds I am still taking. I am hoping this is the last week I need to take them. Other than that, I am feeling ok. Very slowly feeling like I am getting some pep back.

BELLY: It's growing! (but my boobs are not -at least not in any significant way) And I am definitely feeling my skin stretch on some days. I think I will have to start the cocoa butter twice a day instead of just once. I have been in maternity pants for a few weeks now. I can still wear some of my bigger, flowier shirts and empire waist dresses, but not even the rubber band around the buttons can help me into my jeans. I have gotten some maternity clothes from my sister-in-law and a couple of cousins but I will still need more. I have to give back a lot of the clothes so I am still trying to figure out a system of how to keep track of who gave me what. I also have to confess that I used to roll my eyes at pregnant women who complained about getting fat. Even before I was TTC. I thought it was ridiculous because of course it wasn't fat, it's a baby. Now I sort of get it. It isn't that I am worried about being fat, though I am sure that will come as I get huge, it is just really disconcerting to have your body grow and be taken over. It's great because it's a visual reminder of what's happening, but also weird. I have to say, I really find it weird to be pregnant.

SPREADING THE NEWS: At this point we have pretty much told all the people we feel we need to tell personally. The last group we had to tell was my extended family and we were able to do that last week at my grandfather's funeral. Everyone is so excited for us. Aside from one aunt and uncle (who were never able to have kids and always wanted them) we hadn't told anyone about our fertility struggles. That doesn't mean they weren't aware there were problems. Everyone knew we wanted kids and could see how much time was passing. They were just all considerate enough to not press us on the issue and ask us a bunch of questions or offer useless advice. I had a couple aunts tell me they are always excited when someone has a baby but they were more excited for us than anyone else. It's nice to know I had all these people rooting for me all this time. Now we need to do some sort of FB or email announcement for everyone else. I go back and forth on doing a whole FB thing, but I will probably do it. I just don't know what to say. I would like to somehow acknowledge our infertility (I am much more open about it now, especially when anyone asks if twins run in my family) I just don't know how to say it.

MY NEW IDENTITY: I feel like I have a new identity as pregnant woman and everything else about me has ceased to exist. It's all anyone talks to me about and, to be honest, I don't want to talk about it all the time. I never bring it up yet I seem to always be talking about it. Infertility (and my natural inclination to not talk about myself) have really made me cautious. It's like I still don't want to get too excited about it. Plus, I am also hyper-aware that other people may not want to hear (or overhear)  about it for various reasons. I think this is just something I am going to have to get used to. SH has also warned me about the extra novelty of having twins and whether it's my belly or the babies I am going to be fascinating to some people. I think I have mentioned that SH is an identical twin so he is well aware of what we are in for in that department.

PURCHASES: I have just started to feel comfortable enough to start buying baby things. I surprised SH with some Denver Bron.cos onesies and bibs as our first official baby items. He is a huge fan so he loved it. He was a little disappointed at first we aren't having a boy, so I wanted to reassure him that girls can be football fans, too. Then we went to a 2nd hand store for just baby stuff that my cousin told me about and found 2 matching baby bjorns. One looks practically new, the other has a little fading but still in really great condition. It only cost me $58 for both. Yeah, my first baby deal! We are going to keep checking that store because they are constantly getting new stock and I definitely need to find some nice used baby gear. I figure it's good for my wallet and good for the environment, right?

I think that covers everything. I actually started working again a few weeks ago and have been meaning to write a post about that, but just haven't gotten around to it yet. I'll do that soon to catch you all up (I know you will be at the edge of your seats until then) In the meantime, here is the belly shot:


This was taken about a week ago at 12w5d
I guess I started out fairly small so maybe they have nowhere to go but out?

17 comments:

  1. Ditto above, you look so freaking adorable. I am obsessed with belly pics and "when you start to show," so thanks for posting this. That's an obvious (but still super cute and not like gross fat) belly, and that's totally my goal for that elusive day when I'm 12 weeks.

    Congrats and I hope you continue to feel less nauseated. As for the people obsessed with pregnancy, revel in it a little, then turn the topic to something else. But don't forget to just be happy and enjoy people being fixated on you. You've earned this.

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  2. Two girls! That's so awesome. I sometimes joke with M that I only want to do IVF if we can have girls, as I don't know what I'd do with a boy. Your belly looks great!

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  3. Holy cow! You look awesome. What a sweet sweet belly shot. Can't wait to see this grow. Also, 2 girls. How incredible. I don't think you have to wait on the ultrasound to be sure about that one. :) Yay!!!

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  4. You are looking SO good! Two girls!!! I bet it is strange to get that information without seeing the "proof" :) But, welcome to the twin girls club!! :) Awesome job on the used baby gear. We got a lot off craigslist and also went to a great consignment sale. You should check that out and see if there are any in your area!! :)

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    1. Annnnnd congrats on the 2nd trimester!!!

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  5. Two princesses!! Yay :). Love your bump!

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  6. Oh I so love this post because I could have written it. We are in the exact same place with the symptoms, appetite, etc. Starting to come out of it, but not quite there. Also, I totally get what you mean about your identity as a pregnant woman. I was going to write a whole post on this. It is literally all I think about. And all I want to talk about. What a bore for everyone except me!

    Keep posting the bump pics. I LOVE it :)

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  7. That is a beautiful belly! Woohoo, second tri!

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  8. Omg look at that bump!!! I can't believe it's so big already! I guess that's what having twins involves when you're petite. You're looking great, though, and congrats on reaching the second trimester. And two girls -- wow! Some people are disappointed when they don't get one of each gender, but I find that sibling bonding is often a lot stronger when you've got two of the same, which is just so lovely to witness.

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  9. What a great bump picture!! It will be fun to watch the progression!!

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  10. WOw!! You do have a preggo belly already! So adorable!!! Two girls is WONDEFUL!

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  11. Woo hoo second trimester! Congrats on the TWO GIRLS and you look fantastic!! You are definitely all bump!

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  12. Love your update! It reminds me that there is hope. You make a pretty cute pregnant lady. :)

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  13. so excited to hear about your progress!

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  14. I love the belly pic! Jen you are so cute. I just really enjoyed this post in general. That is awesome that you had to reassure your Hubby that girls can be sports fans too. Made me giggle.

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  15. Love the pic! You look adorable!

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